| JM RAYBURN
The Greater Columbus LGBTQ Health Coalition is a community-based initiative that consists of health care providers, caregivers, community leaders, organizations, and allies, all with the goal of fostering positive health and safety outcomes within the city’s gender and sexually diverse communities. This includes, but is not limited to, becoming a visible voice of advocacy for gender and sexually diverse clients, educating and providing inclusive wellness resources and filling data gaps in research.
The LGBTQ Health Coalition, in partnership with the Wexner Medical Center, will be hosting the first Central Ohio LGBTQ Health Equity Conference on October 30th-31st at The Ohio State University. The purpose of the conference is to identify various health disparities within the LGBTQ communities and to address the lack of data as it relates to LGBTQ individuals. In an effort to recognize and honor the work of health and social service providers who have or are currently providing culturally competent care and services, the organizers are proud to announce the debut of the Health Impact Leader Awards that will be presented this year during the conference.
The purpose of the award ceremony is to recognize individual physicians, nurses, social workers, advocates, community members, volunteers, and agencies that have made a positive impact on the health of the LGBTQ Community. Individual nominees need not be LGBTQ identified, nor must they have made contributions as part of their professional employment. The LGBTQ Health Coalition hopes to recognize the work of both seasoned and emerging leaders who have made a significant impact on the health of this community. Nominations may also be submitted by email to ColumbusLGBTQHealth@gmail.com. Please include name of nominee, contact information, place of employment, and brief summary for the basis of nomination. All nominations are due July 31st, 2015.
Recently, Quorum Columbus sat down with Dr. John Davis, Assistant Professor of Infectious Diseases at Ohio State University and LGBT healthcare expert, to discuss the significance of the HILA award for our community.
What are the most important values a Health Impact Leader can demonstrate?
I think the most important value would be commitment to serving the LGBTQ community. For example, health or social service nominees might have promoted their services to the LGBTQ community, fostered an LGBTQ friendly office environment, or have asked clients or patients demographic information questions in a way that affirms a diversity of experiences of gender identity and sexual orientation. Community advocates might have displayed exceedingly generous behavior toward improving health for the LGBTQ community as a whole, or even on an individual level.
For example, a heterosexual couple in Columbus lost two sons to HIV in the early years of the epidemic. They turned their grief into community action and spent the next 20 years delivering meals to HIV+ individuals all over Columbus. They collected aluminum cans to raise money to fund a client holiday dinner for 200 HIV+ community members every Christmas. In the case of community organizations, a HILA nominee may have supported LGBTQ health improvement efforts through spearheading programming for the community, or securing grant funds to provide services to community members. We really want to recognize those advocates, organizations, and service providers who have been there for the community in an ongoing and positive way.
What ought to motivate a Health Impact Leader?
I think community service, social justice and a desire to improve health outcomes for an underserved community are some of the motivations that might inspire someone who embodies the spirit of a Health Impact Leader. A HILA nominee would have gone above and beyond expectations to dedicate himself or herself to improving some aspect of health or wellness in this population.
Is there more weight placed on how many followers an individual has or how many other leaders they inspire?
No. We are not looking to recognize nominees based on size or scope of practice or service. We recognize that in some cases an individual can have just as much impact on a few people as an organization can have on many people. We expect to award several nominees in distinct categories. For example, we may have an award for physicians, an award for social workers, one for a community advocate, etc. We are not trying to evaluate every nominee according to the same standards, but rather to group nominees in categories and look for the nominees with really stellar stories.
Given your experience, what kind of leader is needed to further health equity within the Columbus LGBTQ community?
We need leaders who recognize the impact of stigma, discrimination, heterosexism, transphobia, and other negative attitudes toward those of diverse sexual orientations and gender identities have on LGBTQ identified people. We need leaders who are willing to talk about these things and work to dismantle them. We need providers and agencies that welcome the LGBTQ community and are committed to providing LGBTQ-centered care. We need public policies that prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Ultimately, we need people who are willing to go the extra mile to serve our historically underserved community.
Currently Alexis Stevens is preparing for her third main stage show, Dirty Little Witches, playing at Axis Night club on June 5th, 6th, and 7th. This show is especially exciting because it represents a new chapter in her life, not only as an entertainer, but as a man. Alexis is entering into a time in her life where she can enjoy the fruits of her labor as Alexis Stevens that also has allowed her the creative freedom to be comfortable with Steven Dunn. The show collides her two worlds and the result is a renewed sense of self worth and trust in her creative vision.
Coming back to my point, we all have times we have to look ourselves in the mirror and ask, “Who am I?” There have been a number of times I’ve had to do this myself: Take a step back and figure out who I was. I had to learn how to love myself enough to be comfortable with all of me, both personally and professionally. I had to learn my worth and it’s something that I find myself still learning today. It’s a lifelong lesson.
As we age we are supposed to grow and mature, trying to be the best us we can be and falling in love with everything that makes us uniquely us. Once we understand this concept we can begin to truly appreciate not only ourselves but others and their differences. Remember, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else? Tickets for Dirty Little Witches can be purchased at EventBrite.com.
| Adrian Neil-Hobson
I WILL ADMIT I am someone who enjoys sex a lot, almost whenever and however. Sex is one of the best things that has ever happened to mankind, in my opinion, of course. Even though sex can be amazing, it can also be the root of some serious issues. It’s one of the things that can ruin marriages and relationships. It has the power to turn friends against one another, it can become addictive, and even cause wars (Helen of Troy, anyone?). Needless to say, sex is something powerful and sex is the subject of this month’s column.
I went to go see Fifty Shades of Grey recently and fell in love with it. I will be honest and admit that the movie wasn’t great and the book was much better but the concept was amazing. It made individuals, like myself and probably you, feel okay about having fetishes. It made it feel normal. So many people are embarrassed about their sexual desires but, like technology, sex is forever evolving and it’s not a bad thing.
Even though people are talking more openly about sex now, it sometimes is still this little kept secret, especially when you start talking about anything outside of “normal” sex (i.e. gay sex, kink, fetishes, etc.). People are still afraid to let out their inner freaks and be okay with it. But why? Why is it so wrong to explore and be open and honest about it? Some may argue that the reason we have such high rates of HIV infection is because we don’t talk about sex enough. I am not saying that we should tell the world every detail of our sex lives, but if we were to provide a safe and educating space about sex then, in my opinion, it would help. A lot. I even know some people who are embarrassed to admit that they are on certain dating (hook-up) sites/apps such as Jack’d, Grindr, and/or BGC. What is there to be embarrassed about? We are human, after all. We all need a sexual release.
Then of course there’s masturbation. I was lucky enough to have a mother who actually encouraged masturbation; after all it’s the safest form of sexual pleasure when you start talking about STD’s and pregnancy. There are adults who are reluctant to admit that they frequent sex stores for certain toys or porn. If we don’t know what pleases us sexually, how the heck can we expect someone else to? As always, I like to be transparent with my readers and I will admit that yes, I do masturbate. Depending on the week, it may be as many as five times.
Like with almost anything, any form of sex done in excess can be a negative thing and can become an addiction. It’s imperative to know your limits and boundaries, to make sure that it doesn’t take over your life and doesn’t turn into something unhealthy. Sexual addiction is something that is very real and serious. There are people who have lost their jobs and families because of a sexual addiction, but as long as it’s done in a healthy way and in healthy amounts (that’s up for you to decide) then I say go for it.
Sex is something that is not to be ashamed of and it is something that we as a society should embrace more. And I am not talking heterosexual missionary position sex, but sex today. Gay sex, fetishes, porn, masturbation and all the other things that sex encompasses. Woody Allen said it best, “Sex without love is meaningless, but as far as meaningless experiences go it’s pretty damn good.”
| Adrian Neil-Hobson
AS I HAVE WRITTEN BEFORE, every now and then I like to use this platform to highlight various people and organizations and this month I will highlight Columbus Urban Pride.
Columbus Urban Pride was founded in 2012 by a small group of local community leaders. These leaders came together in an effort to organize culturally competent social and educational events for LGBTQ people of color during Columbus Pride in June.
Unlike other cities, such as Atlanta, Chicago and Washington D.C., Columbus did not have a Pride specific to LGBTQ people of color until the creation of Columbus Urban Pride. Before that there wasn’t anything that celebrated the LGBTQ community of color nor were there any LGBTQ community of color specific educational and informative events. This group of leaders saw that as a problem and decided to change it.
People may question why there needs to be separate pride. For me it’s simple: LGBTQ people of color face challenges that are unique to them. Not only are we dealing with homophobia, but we are also dealing with race issues and discrimination due to race. We are disproportionately affected when it comes HIV, poverty, education and more. It’s imperative that there are events that speak to the LGBTQ community of color.
Last year members of Columbus Urban Pride came together and strategized about how to move forward with the program. Out of the strategic meeting it was decided that there would be an executive committee that would oversee C.U.P. The executive committee is made of five leaders, including myself. Each member is in charge of their own subcommittees (social, education, spiritual and financial). One of the biggest changes taking place is the fact that C.U.P. will be doing events all year that cater to the LGBTQ community of color. Events will range from networking events, socials, community conversations, community service and more. This will allow C.U.P. to better serve the community.
Another goal of C.U.P. is to become a 501(c)(3) in an effort to stick with the new mission statement, which is to provide
a safe space for the celebration of racial diversity while empowering, building community and providing resources within the LGBTQ communities in Greater Columbus. In an effort to reach this goal C.U.P. will be hosting our first fundraiser event. The Columbus Urban Pride Variety Benefit Show will feature drag queens, drag kings, dancers, spoken word artists and more. The fundraiser will be held at Axis Night Club on April 10th from 7pm to 10pm. Tickets can be purchased by going to ColumbusUrbanPride.org/events.
For more information about Columbus Urban Pride and how to become involved email ColumbusUrbanPride@gmail.com or visit the website ColumbusUrbanPride.org.
| ADRIAN JAY NEIL
IN 2009 I WAS diagnosed with HIV/AIDS. To be perfectly honest I did not know much about HIV/AIDS except that it was something I did not want. I was 24 and working as a Human Resource coordinator for one of the biggest grocery retailers, where I had been for nearly four years. At the time I was diagnosed, I only had very few white blood cells and a viral load six-figures long. These numbers are never a good thing.
After many hospitalizations, three near-death experiences and developing seizures, I am still here. I began working professionally in the HIV prevention/education field in 2013 when I moved here to work for the Greater Columbus Mpowerment Center as the Outreach Services Specialist. Before that I was doing public speaking talks at various high schools, universities and organizations. I was sharing my unique story about how I wasn’t supposed to be still be alive. That I was a miracle. That I had a unique strand of HIV… blah, blah, blah. It wasn’t until I moved to Columbus that I fully started my career in public health.
Now I know what you’re thinking: You’re thinking that you’re about to read another story about how someone living with HIV has overcome and been successful and how they’ve been able to live life “normally.” Well, you’re wrong. Yes, I am living with HIV. Yes, I am successful. And yes, I am healthy. But to be honest with you I am tired of HIV.
Since moving here, I have been non-stop trying to make a name for myself in Columbus and in the field of HIV prevention/education everywhere. In a little over a year I have been able to accomplish a lot and I’m still just a baby in the field. I have worked hard and I am proud of myself, but at the same time I’m frustrated.
I am living with HIV and I work in the field of HIV prevention/education which combined is not easy. If I’m not testing, I’m program planning or doing outreach. If I’m not doing those things, I’m speaking about my story or giving a presentation. And if I’m not educating, I’m doing research or attending a conference. If that weren’t enough, I have to make sure I’m taking my medication, make sure I’m eating right, make sure I’m going to my appointments (the list goes on), in order for me to be holistically well.
It is very easy to get burnt out. There are moments when I want to run away from HIV. To pretend I am not positive, to change careers and to move. Of course I won’t and can’t do these things because I love my career, but those emotions are real.
HIV is ever present. Whenever I feel really tired or get a headache, I start thinking, “Oh no, I’m going to go in the hospital again.” Depending on other things I am physically feeling, sometimes I think the extreme: “Is this the day I am going to die?” With each pill I take or each time I go to get my blood drawn or when I go into the office or when I do a talk, I’m reminded that I am HIV positive. It gets hard.
There are still times I find myself crying in the middle of the night, asking God why. Don’t get me wrong, I truly believe that I would not be who I am today without HIV. It has made me a stronger as a person and a professional. That said, I am tired of HIV and have to work to stay positive.
| ADRIAN JAY NEIL
February is Black History Month, and we mark National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day this month as well. I can’t think of a more fitting time to share the story of one of my mentors, Rodney A. Brown.
Seven years ago, I was honored to meet Rodney as one of my dance instructors at the Dayton Contemporary Dance Company’s school. Like many other students, I admired him instantly. He was very encouraging and believed that every student could do something great, whether it was in dance or another field. Rodney is the type of choreographer and teacher to push his students to explore movements that they would never have considered. He now shares these lessons and more at OSU, where he joined the dance faculty in 2012; prior to that he served as artistic director of dance at Santa Fe College. All these years later, it comes as no surprise that he’s doing amazing work in Columbus
Growing up, Rodney had many talents and passions, but his interest in storytelling stood out most. Rodney attended Dayton’s Colonel White High School, a performing arts school, where he was a part of drill team as a drummer and then eventually as a dancer and a part of the show choir. After high school, Rodney entered college to study English as a means to explore his interest in storytelling. Soon he realized that he could tell his stories through movement and dance, so he auditioned for the Oakland University Dance program. Based on this talent, he was accepted into the program, but moved on before completing the program. Rodney then made the bold decision to move to New York City to take classes at the world-renowned Alvin Ailey Dance Center.
While in New York, Rodney had the opportunity to grow not only as a dancer but as a man. Being surrounded by other African American dancers provided him with a community that fostered his talent. His time in NYC ended a few months after the September 11th attacks, when Rodney moved back to Dayton to dance with Dayton Contemporary Dance Company II. He eventually returned to Oakland University and earned a B.F.A. in 2005 becoming the first African American male to complete Oakland’s dance program.
To continue his interest in choreographing and creating stories, Rodney attended the University of Michigan’s graduate dance program. It was at the University of Michigan that Rodney began to soar. There he met one of the most inspiring professors of his educational career, Dr. Nesha Z. Haniff. She taught his Homophobia in the Black World course. Rodney’s interest in social justice, race issues and LGBTQ people of color grew, as did his interest in the innovative teaching approach of his professor. Dr. Haniff is the founder of a teaching approach call Pedagogy of Action (POA) that provides opportunities to students to explore their own ideas and empowers ordinary people to act in their community to address its pressing problems.
While on a study abroad experience to help local people learn the tools to provide community HIV education in South Africa, Dr. Haniff told Rodney something that would stick with him forever. She said, “You leave the skills with the people rather than leave with the skills.” It was a humbling experience for Rodney and opened his eyes to how HIV and other issues were afflicting different parts of the world. Once Rodney returned to the states, he focused on the lack of knowledge many people in the U.S. had related to HIV and AIDS. Rodney also realized that he could infuse the POA approach with dance and movement.
The POA was another way to teach HIV education and provide awareness in a simple manner that does not assume that all segments of the public automatically are educated about all aspects of the HIV. The POA breaks down the education of HIV in a way that that allows community members to take responsibility for themselves if given the right tools to learn and allows them to become able to teach back.
Rodney came to a deeper understanding of HIV and AIDS in the African American community when a close friend disclosed that he was HIV positive. It was at that moment that Rodney wanted to make a difference and educate communities, especially those disproportionally affected by HIV. Through his dance company, The Brown Dance Project, he created a piece dedicated to his friend, entitled Loving Lloyd, that still receives praise to this day.
The Brown Dance Project was established in 2006 and incorporated in 2008. It’s a unique company in that group of dancers doesn’t have a set group of dancers. Instead he calls on dancers from all over and also those who had minimal to no dance training. Rodney has created many works under his company that relate to HIV.
By infusing the POA module into his dance company, Rodney teaches HIV education through movement. He includes non-dancers in works and allows them the creative freedom to interpret HIV in their own way. In the end they are able to take the information they learned and teach it back. That’s the purpose of the module: to be able to share with the world.
Rodney is an artist in every way possible. Alvin Ailey once stated, “Dance is for everybody. I believe that the dance came from the people and that it should always be delivered back to the people.” Rodney A. Brown is doing just that though his own style of teaching and storytelling.
I often reach out to different people to get various opinions via social media. Last month I posed a series of questions on Facebook, “How far are you willing to go to please your mate sexually? Would you be willing to use toys? Are threesomes a no-go? Are you willing to do things in public? Have phone sex when you’re not in the same place? Role play? Watch porn together? What is your limit, if you have one? Please be honest.” I got numerous responses, but there was one commonality: no matter how open folks were, everyone had their own lines not to be crossed. But what happens when those lines aren’t discussed and one of you feels pressured to engage in a certain sexual act that crosses your line?
Feeling forced or pressured into doing something sexually that your partner likes is not healthy and can leave a person feeling as though they are not enough, as though they always have to go above and beyond to keep their mate interested or keep them from seeking pleasure outside the relationship. On the other hand, the partner who desires certain things may feel their needs are not being met in a relationship where those desires are denied.
Where does one draw the line between compromising to please a partner and compromising yourself?
I am a firm believer that sex is important and that eventually the flame may not be as vibrant after the first few years of a relationship and that couples may have to start working harder or differently to please their partner. I also believe that if conversations regarding sexual boundaries are shared in the beginning of a relationship, there is a better chance of meeting everyone’s needs. Disclosing long-held desires that may cross a partner’s boundaries after months in a relationship is a lot harder than being upfront about what you’re into at the beginning. Forcing or pressuring a partner into sex acts they aren’t comfortable trying is never OK.
Sex should not be placed in a box, and people should be free to explore their desires. We all know that there are going to be points in a relationship where one person is compromising more than the other and vice versa and that’s perfectly OK in the short-term. Sometimes it’s not about getting what you want but being heard and having your desires or needs respected.
When Christmas break was approaching during my college years, I remember not wanting to go home. Believe it or not, I looked forward to finals more than I looked forward to going home to see family and friends. I was out in college and proud of who I was. I had even been featured in an online article and facilitated a program called “Bridging the Gap” that brought students from different backgrounds and beliefs together to make Ohio University more inclusive for students. Despite those achievements, I still felt a sense of shame, especially when I went home for the holidays.
At home, family would inquire: “Who are you dating? How pretty is she? When will you be bringing a girl home to meet us?” I would always respond with, “I am focusing on school,” or, “I am not ready to be serious.” If I was dating someone and didn’t want them to know it was a guy, I would refer to him as “them” or “they” instead of using masculine pronouns. Each time I did this, I felt more and more ashamed. I felt as though I could not be me—whoever that was—with the people who are supposed to support and love me, no matter what. I felt isolated. While everyone else was talking about their successes in their majors or lives, I felt I had to keep mine a secret because I felt as though anything that dealt with being gay was not a success but a disappointment to my family.
These experiences and others like them left me feeling alone, and unfortunately, this is what many LGBTQ individuals are facing every time they contemplate going home. They have to choose between being with their family of origin, being with the new family or families they have developed and chosen for themselves, or being alone.
They have to see their brother or sister with their new wife or husband and be reminded that they cannot bring their partner to the family holiday gathering because it’s not accepted. It’s bad enough that there are certain state officials who refuse to recognize same-sex relationships, but not having family recognition and support is worse.
The holidays are meant to be a time where families gather and celebrate one another, a time where everyone feels comfortable and loved rather than experiences anxiety and discomfort because of who they are. Whether you consider your family to be the relatives you grew up with or the people you have met throughout your life, make sure that they love and respect you unconditionally. The holidays should be spent celebrating everything you are.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
When I first found out I was accepted into Cycle 7 of Pride Leadership, I still wasn’t sure what to fully expect. I remember the program coordinator, Shayne, giving a speech at the orientation reception that made me nervous—but in a good way. He promised that the program would challenge us, but only as much as we would let it. “You will only get out of the program what you put into it,” is what Shayne would repeatedly say to us — and he was right. Even though there were plenty of opportunities and knowledge shared, it was up to us to apply what we learned.
I will also be honest and say that I was nervous about how I would interact with my fellow participants. All of them were in some way, shape or form making Columbus a better place. I realized that I would be working with some of the most innovative, passionate and intelligent individuals that this city has to offer. It was a feeling that I haven’t felt since my freshman year of college, but I discovered that I had nothing to worry about since I, too, was selected for the program. The chemistry among the Cycle 7 members was amazing and inspiring.
From day one, we meshed very well, and we recognized what each individual could contribute to the group. During the retreat we did numerous team building activities, but the “Artifacts” activity was especially memorable to me. Each person had to bring one item from home that they could not part with. The scenario was, “If your house caught fire and you could only grab one item, what would it be?” As you can imagine, this process was very personally revealing for the members. By the time we completed the circle, nearly everyone was in tears. We realized that no matter what our careers were and where we came from, we were human, and we were all there for a common goal—to make Columbus, and therefore the world, a better place where everyone could live in peace and be treated equally.
Each Pride Leadership cycle is given the task of planning and implementing a group project that will impact the community in a positive way. The projects can have various components to them such as fundraising, holding events, assessing needs and marketing. The goal of each project is to be build awareness around a particular issue or organization. This can be achieved by working with an organization, or in our case, creating a new one.
In Columbus, there aren’t any organizations that cater specifically to meeting the needs of LGBTQ families, and there isn’t a central location for those interested in creating a family to go to for resources and support. Our cycle saw this as a huge need and opportunity, so we went beyond our expected goal to create The Family Pride Network of Central Ohio. Learn more about the kickoff of this new organization on the next page. I am proud to be part of Pride Leadership and proud of what the members of Cycle 7 have accomplished together.
Learn more or get involved with Pride Leadership:
DEAR ADRIAN NEIL JR.,
I figured this is the perfect time to write to you. So many things have happened over the past 28 years. I hope this letter gives you the inspiration and courage that you need to not only get through high school but the next 14 years (when you will be 28). Now, I can’t give you all the details about what to expect or what’s going to happen, but just enough to get you through.
At this point, you are entering your freshman year of high school. You’re a little terrified about this new school. Reality is that you have never attended an inner city school that is predominately African American, so you are not sure if you know how to identify with other African-Americans. Your whole life you have been told that you talk white by your black peers and unfortunately this will still happen in high school, but I am writing to tell you not to let that discourage you.
Right now, you feel as though you have to dumb yourself down or start “acting black”—whatever that means--and there is no such thing, Adrian. Do not feel as though you are “less than” because you don’t sag your pants, use slang or pretend to be something you’re not. Do not be discouraged because you aren’t interested in partying, skipping class or smoking weed. Stand firm in who you are and how you were raised. I will also advise that you be open-minded, and be prepared to be brought to reality. You have been sheltered for the majority of your life, so going to this school and being around different people with unique experiences and different backgrounds is needed.
Something else that you are struggling with is your sexual identity. For the longest time, you have been suppressing your true self in order to please others, mainly your family. By the way, one of the lessons that you will learn from attending Meadowdale High School is to be you and embrace your whole self, something you have been struggling with. You have always been taught that homosexuality is wrong and therefore suppressed a major part of you which has caused you to feel as though you weren’t worthy. You have felt like an outcast, but that’s about to change.
Because of you, people at your high school will begin to see homosexuality in a different light. You will actually have your very first boyfriend in high school, and you will love him and experience love like you never had before. I won’t give you his name; you will meet him soon enough, and you guys will build a friendship made of rock before you two decide to enter into a relationship during your senior year. Unfortunately, the relationship won’t last beyond your summer before going to college, but you guys will always be there for one another.
Over the next four years, you will do things that you didn’t think you would ever do, academically and socially. As I stated before, I can’t tell you everything, but I will give you just enough to give you hope. You will become the first male cheerleader in Dayton Public Schools, and even win an award presented by the superintendent. Crazy, right? You will be recognized in Who’s Who all four years of high school, be in the International Baccalaureate program for all four years, be elected to the National Honor Society and graduate at the top ten percent of your class. You will even be Vice President of the teen council at your church and an amazing dancer. That’s right, your love of dance will flourish after receiving a scholarship to the Jeraldyne School of Dance (official training school of the Dayton Contemporary Dance Company).
I know all this may seem impossible right now with your thoughts of suicide, loneliness and fear of the unknown, but you can do it. You will gain supporters, friends and mentors who will guide you, mold you and give you what you need. On top of all that your relationship with God will grow stronger, and God will use you to bring others to him. Adrian, you are truly amazing. Trust me, I know; after all, I am the future you. So don’t give up because you have so much more work to do, and I can’t wait for you to experience what is coming.
I leave you with a quote by Martin Luther King Jr. that you will carry for the rest of your life: “An individual has not starting living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” So Adrian, remember, you have a greater purpose on this earth and you will continue to inspire and motivate your friends, family and community wherever you are.
(That’s right, your name changes)