"When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do." ~ RuPaul
| ADRIAN NEIL, JR
HOW MANY OF US have made tons of goals for ourselves for each new year and have not followed through with them? I know I am guilty. Each January I tell myself I am going to work out at least three times a week for the rest of the year, and I end up failing miserably. The reason I give myself this yearly goal, to be honest, is so I can look sexy and attractive for others. After all, that’s one of the pressures we put on ourselves, isn’t it?
When I look back, most of the goals I have tried to set for myself have been what others (family, friends, society, etc.) have wanted me to achieve, how others thought I should live. While certain people in your life may have some very good advice and suggestions, at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live with the changes, good or bad, that you have decided to make in your life.
I can’t count how many times I have looked at myself in the mirror and wondered who was staring back at me. (Cue Michael Jackson’s, Man in the Mirror.) Usually when I am attempting to change because of what someone else has suggested, I never follow through with it because it’s not what I truly want. When we attempt to change to fit someone else’s view of who we should be, we give them power, the power that was given to us at birth. We give up our free will and then we find ourselves in a cycle of always seeking approval and acceptance instead of staying true to who we are.
Of course no one, as far as I know, has been able to dodge the overwhelming desire to be a part of something or to have someone’s approval. Whether it’s the approval of your parents, boss, friends or lover, there comes a point in each of our lives when we have to start living for what we want. We must start to fight to be accepted for who we are.
I suggest we make 2014 the year that we discover and embrace our true selves and learn to love ourselves unconditionally. I challenge all readers to move beyond resolutions in order to dig very deep to identify the characteristics that you want to change and to embrace the qualities that make you unique. As RuPaul says, “When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do.”
Let’s take back our power and be our true selves as we enter into 2014.