SEX IS A FUN, enjoyable activity that nearly everyone participates in. Let’s just be honest. The enjoyment that comes from getting laid has such power that it can allow someone who hasn’t had sex in a while act like a total bitch become completely happy and relaxed afterwards, if even only for a few brief moments. Obviously the “release” that comes from sex is physically enjoyable and the intensity varies depending on how active your partner is during intercourse. Sex can be intense with someone who is doing everything right but can also be boring for someone who’s getting it all wrong.
Where does that intensity come from? If we are have certain attributes that we find appealing in sex partners, such as physical appearance, body type, eyes, hair color, scene, etc., and the intensity of sex varies from person to person, it leads me to ask the question, why do we seek out sex? Are we just looking for the “release” or are we looking for the “connection” that’s made?
We all want to share our lives with those who care for us. Individually, we may seek out sex as a way to connect with another person. That’s natural. From my perspective, the connection that is made with the person is what makes sex so enjoyable. That is why relationships are allowed to thrive and maintain and it is also a reason why they fail due to that connection. When the connection is made and it’s new, sex is fun, exciting and intense. It can last as long as you want it to. You see that person and get to choose to find a way to keep connecting or you choose to stop wanting that connection. Enjoyable and fulfilling sex is based on that basic idea of keeping the people you are having sex with connected to you.
Enjoy getting to know the actual person and make a connection before having sex. Have intense, satisfying, and enjoyable sex by enjoying the person sucking your dick or going down on you, not the fact that they are doing it. By learning to appreciate the person—not just the act—you will naturally protect yourself, because you want to keep that connection. Hey, it’s not rocket science. When it comes to great sex, when you make each other happy, you just can’t lose.